It was a scary experience. So a proposal comes around and all looks well, in fact really really well and as is custom, all queries regarding the family was initiated.
All turned out well, family was exceptionally well known to the point that the potential groom and his siblings were well known as children in the area and were of impeccable reputation. The family name itself was pretty reputed in our community as a religious head was from the said family.
The guy himself, as is considered a matter of pride among my people, was ‘working abroad with PR status’ in a known country in the western hemisphere.
All seemed well and I,true to my word, actually said yes after a lot of sleepless nights and anxiety ridden days as to how will I acquaint myself with complete stranger
One simple question unraveled it all..
What year did the guy pass out if college?
Mind you this is after being assured that the guy studied from an extremely reputed college in the country and also worked in various well known firms in our native land and abroad
The mother of the groom , who was actually at the forefront for the whole process , gets extremely ruffled and speaks disrespectful ly towards my parents..My father along with being offended felt something was oddly off and set off into a detailed search of the guy himself and sure enough..
Every detail given to us about the guy was false!
The family and it’s reputation was all well and as is general custom further questions about the guy specifically are avoided in most cases. If that had been the case here I would have married into a HUGE web of falsehoods!
So here is a word of caution to all out there who are considering this process..
Please don’t be afraid to ask all the necessary questions!!and if anyone seems hesitant to answer please probe into asuch detail as possible before proceeding any further as a marriage is a NOT a joke!
If your relatives seems hesitant to ask questions bluntly pertaining to the guys /girls orientation, education ,work or health status or any damn specific question under the sun PLZ make it a point that you dear reader take the initiative and find it out ! Coz our politeness or old customs should not become a barrier for us as I witnessed first hand just how close a call that was!
Rattled and shaken